Never be a psychological slave in the workplace
Quite a few people in modern life let others grasp, control, and play the role of “psychological slaves” unconsciously. They are engaged in jobs that they hate, live in disliked environments, and do things contrary to their intentions. Here are five kinds of “psychological slaves”.
The slaves of “what others think” are the most common kind of “psychological slaves”. They are the most destructive to creativity and personality. They are more common in mentally immature people.
“If I talk more, others will think that I am in the limelight”, “I do that, others will laugh at me” . This “other” type of thought makes it a slave to “others” thinking.
Most of these “psychological slaves” will listen to the advice of underqualified people, which will seriously affect their creativity.
Solution: ① If you can feel happy after imitating others, try your best to imitate.
Otherwise, you should live your way.
② Reasonably face other people’s other eyes and criticize and blame. Because of the change of position, the more opportunities for people to be the object of chat, the more opportunities for criticism.
③ Make friends with courageous, willing, helpful, and like-minded people.
”Destined to fail” slaves This type of “psychological slave” lacks self-awareness and considers themselves small and unable to really see themselves.
They often reject “I don’t have a good chance”, “I will fail”, “People around me are against me”, “Leaders don’t value me” . Actually, thinking can actually control the development of things, when one wants toWhatever he wants, he will really become like that.
Solution: ① Always use good, positive, constructive words to imply that you will increase self-confidence.
Usually try to think in terms of “why you can do it” instead of turning around “why you can’t do it”.
② I always think “I am going to succeed” and “I am a winner”, this will strengthen the belief of victory, and try to find various ways that “help success”.
”Too late” slaves This kind of “psychological slave” usually thinks that something can be done at certain ages.
For example, some people think that they have missed a good opportunity, and now they are advancing and retreating.
Some people think that they are too old at the age of 26 to go to college, and some think that they are 40 years old and cannot marry again.
Prevention: ① Don’t pay attention to age restrictions, and look for a living example in life.
② Don’t give up.
Have a plan and work towards your ideal step by step.
Many people prefer to eat “big pot rice” rather than reform. This is the typical “safety” slave slave.
Lack of imagination is a common psychological characteristic of “safety” slaves.
In fact, risks exist objectively. Human survival and development are a process of continuous struggle and constant elimination of insecurity.
Solution: ① Make life rich and colorful.
② Because there are risks, there will be climbing, if there are difficulties, there will be breakthroughs, if there is pressure, there will be rise, and if there are storms, there will be fighting.
Therefore, we must learn to face all kinds of difficulties and rare and unknown things.
The slaves of “past mistakes” were controlled by the wounds of past failures. The fear of any new attempt was their main characteristic. They were always bitten by snakes and were afraid of well ropes for ten years.
They are discouraged by their failure and do not know how to draw lessons from their failure.
The slavery of “past mistakes” will damage the ability of people to explore, and some people will stand still.
Solution: ① If you regard failure as an investment, you will not feel it is a loss.
Some people say that Edison failed 9999 times to make the first practical light bulb, but he himself thought that he found 9999 methods that were not applicable.
② If errors can be detected in time, they cannot be regarded as errors at all.